The children are moving out of the house and into their first homes (a tent set up) tomorrow. Each child has purchased a tent setup that will be their home until they go through an attitude shift (an emotional change) in regards to caring for the shared environment and love of others (in basic terms clean and care for their personal and shared living environment and not expect others (mum in this case) to do everything for them, and to see how their choices and actions are causing unloving situations in their lives).
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In December 2017 I realised that I wasn’t communicating with the children and I wasn’t taking the time to get to know them or giving them the opportunity to express how they were really feeling or what they were thinking. I also noticed a gap in their communication skills and interpersonal interaction. Partly this is due to the self-absorbed-ness we (the parents) have encouraged in them and part of it is due to their lack of education in how to actually interact with other people.
I felt it was important to begin a process of correcting the lack of education from myself and over the past 5 months we have began to have what I call “family meetings” or “debriefs”. Continue reading
***This post was updated on the 2nd September 2017, to be more transparent about some of the emotional dynamics being played out within the family
The following is post is about two experiments I was involved in.
The first experiment was a family experiment between Pete and myself.
The second was a parenting experiment to discover the addictions I have created between myself and the kids, and to challenge addictions in myself and the children during the month.
Following you will find:
- A brief reflection of the family experiment
- An outline of the parenting experiment including some benefits, the details of what, who, where, when and why. Some of my personal reflections & learning during the experiment and a summary of where I am heading next.
After the “official” experiments ended I decided to continuing them as the first month I only began to become a little more aware of what is really going on in the family dynamic, I have yet to emotionally work through the causal reasons why our family is like it currently is. Continue reading
20170527 Note to Reader:
My friend Mary gave me some feedback on some issues with this story not being completely truthful. I want to correct this before sharing it.
Because I want the story to be a truthful representation of what happened and our family dynamic at the time I have temporarily removed the links to this story as there are some modifications I need to make.
It is very important to me that it accurately reflect Parents responsibility in what happens in a house hold. For example how Parents unhealed emotional injuries are reflected by children and it is the parents unhealed emotions that attract spirit influence. In the story I was blaming spirits rather than portraying how the influence happens.
There were some fundamental errors in what I wrote mainly in that it is not clear enough that personal responsibility and working emotionally through everything out of harmony with love within yourself (the parent) is what changes the family dynamic the most.
The book was suggesting that spirits are entirely responsible for children making mischief, this is not true or accurate.
There is a combination of factors that create the dynamic. In our house the reason that the children acted out as they did and the spirit influence was so great was due to a combination of fears Pete and I had (some we still have) that we were refusing to feel about and the law of attraction at work to help us to work through these.
As I have emotionally worked through some personal issues things have improved in our home. The improvement is due to me (the adult) emotionally releasing some false beliefs, being truthful and honest and beginning a process of feeling how I really feel. I then choose to uphold love more and it is my choices becoming more in harmony with love that are making the difference.
It was due to me being told the truth by Jesus & Mary, my choice to be truthful about my soul condition to myself and experiment with God’s truth that caused things to begin to change.
Our personal choices and taking personal responsibility are paramount in what happens in our life! I want this story to reflect that and currently it doesn’t, so I am editing it.
I wrote a children’s book a couple of years ago (2015) and am sharing it as a pdf (link to come).
It is titled:
At Our House – A Story about Loving Restriction
I have done it as a pdf so you can print it and make it into a book if you want to. If you print it out on heavier duty paper, double sided with the short edge binding option (landscape) it ought to print out neatly and be able to be bound or stapled on the left hand edge.
I have also attached some brief notes to parents about loving restriction & Spirit Influence which can be found in the second pdf
‘At Our House’ Story, link below (the download size is 74MB). This is the one to print if you are going to make it into a book:
20170323-ELH-KIDS-BOOK-At Our House
A Lower resolution version for online viewing & emailing (download size MB) link below:
20170423-ELH-KIDS-BOOK-At Our House – Low quality
Note to Parents & Caregivers about the story, (download size 34KB) link below:
2014_childrens_story_notes_to_parentscaregivers from Eloisa
You are welcome to share this story with your friends. This book may be reproduced, copied and distributed.
I hope you & the children who read or listen to this story enjoy it.
I have added some Links below to Divine Truth Information if you are interested in finding out more
If you type in the subject you are interested in in the search menu (little magnify glass symbol) on the YouTube channel you will find a lot of information on a variety of subject matter.
Sourced from personal Notes dated 20140617
A snippet of what I found out personally about how I feel about ‘parenting’ and some of my experiences and discoveries during that process…
My life now in comparison to five years ago is different in a few areas, especially in regards to children. I am happier, less tired, have actually experienced joy. I am able to do things I want to do at times. I enjoy hanging out with the kids. I want to. It doesn’t feel like such a chore. I am desiring more and more to teach them to look after themselves rather than being ‘mummy dependent’. I can hold a conversation with someone, our house is not a total mess all of the time now, the kids wash their own dishes – still needs work. They dress themselves, make their own lunches and breakfasts. We go shopping and it takes…
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My Name is Tristan Miller,
I wish to give an impression of who I am, why I really want to be a part of this God’s Way of Education and why people should trust God’s Way of Love to create such a framework to teach and engage children and families.
This is the biggest subject I care about, which I know can be addressed with much more love than it currently is:
At the moment education for our youngsters is missing something. They are not actively learning how to actually treat themselves or others lovingly, nor how to be emotionally responsible for how they feel. There are no current widely recognised lessons for this, no state or federal framework for this sort of education.
It seems to actually be something that families are expected to provide when, at best, parents are often trying to learn about these things in their…
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I am beginning to look at what I am teaching through my actions. Not what I say or what I want to believe. All that is meaningless in comparison to my true feelings and the actions I take. My actions are what do the teaching. If what I say does not match up with what I do I am being hypocritical.
I often ask myself: ‘What am I demonstrating right now through my actions?’ Am I honoring Love and Truth or am I way off with that?
And if the kids are around I ask myself: ‘What are they being taught right now through what I am doing and feeling, or not doing and not feeling?’
I feel being truthful is so important – both personal truth and sharing what you know about God’s Truth or The Truth (Universal Truth – If you don’t know anything, don’t pretend you do).
I often feel parents are reluctant and often fear being truthful about their feelings and about most things with children. Particularly in regards to what we class as ‘grown up issues’, example: divorce, sexual abuse, sexuality, and anything else parents deem ‘inappropriate for children’.
I feel that withholding the truth or lying to kids is so damaging. It is also really condescending as we we don’t believe children can ‘handle’ the truth, I often hear people minimizing, justifying or watering down answers to very frankly asked questions from children.
Kids can handle Truth, often better than adults. It is us as adults who find the truth challenging and we put this onto kids rather than allowing them to feel about the truth and feel what they feel. I notice this so often when children just come out and say things and the adults around them freak out, dismiss them, get condescending or brush them aside, particularly in public. I reckon this would feel terrible for a child.
When we feel this way and are untruthful with children we are teaching them to do the same. We undermine their feelings and teach them to distrust themselves and their experiences, this is very damaging.
I don’t agree with dumping emotions or incestuously sharing or involving children in a parents/adults emotional processes, issues or relationships, this is damaging and not being loving or truthful either. Being truthful is answering children’s questions directly and being honest with what is going on, particularly when it is happening to them or around them. When children ask questions is the perfect time to share information because they* are demonstrating a desire to know.
I cannot agree that the truth is damaging, I feel untruths are damaging! Being Truthful may cause emotional responses and I have heard, if these are let to fully run their course and flow out then there will be no emotional damage left in the end.
The Truth is always loving and has huge potential to heal when delivered with love.
I often think about how we re-name body parts or bodily functions as anything but their real names, or about death and how parents/adults lie and make up stuff to tell children that is not true, it is dishonest and about the parents fears not about the best interests of the child. Also most often parents have been mis-educated about death and have not experienced it – yet – so they have no idea and cannot actually tell a child what happens because they do not know.
Children are generally much more open than adults and in my experience if things are logically explained they accept them, ask lots of questions (many of which we don’t know and can’t answer, which we also need to be honest about) or feel through them without much resistance if there is not opposition from the parents emotional stance.
Our reluctance to be truthful with children is hypocritical. If we are lying to our children we can not expect them to be honest with us or themselves. How can we expect this if we are unwilling to be emotionally honest with ourselves and others? Our actions are hypocritical when we expect others to do what we are not willing to do ourselves.
If we desire others to be truthful with us, we also need to be truthful with ourselves and others.
We cannot ask our children to do what we are unprepared to do ourselves.
Being truthful is loving. When a child can trust you to be truthful with them they are more likely to be truthful with you. They are also more likely to come to you and ask advice and actually listen to you because they know you will stand up for (God’s) Truth and Love – this is a very powerful thing!
If they know you lie or withhold truth (a form of lying) they will also reflect this and we are responsible for creating children who also lie and withhold the truth. If a child is lying I feel it is about us not wanting to hear the truth, or them feeling unsafe to tell the truth, or it could be manipulating which they would have learnt from us also – either that they can do so because we are open to being manipulated, and/or because we manipulate so they learn to do so (it could be other reasons too). Either way they are reflecting back to us our stuff – which is pretty awesome when I think about it, as it gives us an opportunity to see ourselves ‘warts and all’ and the opportunity to change and grow in a positive direction.
Parents I notice like to blame kids and make what is happening with children about the child/ren rather than taking personal responsibility for what they, as the parent/caregiver, have created and taught the kids. In my opinion kids reflect their environment, which includes parents and then learn to be what they become – which is most cases is taught by their parents. I feel parent’s get afraid of what is going to happen if they are truthful or that it will reflect badly on them or something, really I reckon it is about adults wanting to protect their feelings and avoid their own emotions.
As a kid you feel what is going on around you all the time and when personal truth is told it confirms the feelings you are having and honors your experience rather than feeling that you must be wrong because mum and dad are saying the opposite to what you feel and/or what is being experiencing is untrue. The lack of truth and love causes a lot of sadness in children.
If you can share how to discover God’s Truth and how God’s Laws work with children, I feel this is super powerful because then they learn about Truth and Love for themselves and know that personal truth is not necessarily in harmony with God’s Truth and what God views as loving.
Knowing the truth and knowing that your parent is truthful with you builds trust and enables you to make decisions based on your own feelings and assessments and experiences, this actually builds sense of self in a positive way.
My parents withheld the truth and it has been very damaging. They didn’t want to be truthful themselves and it is devastating to find out later that you were lied too and your parents didn’t love you enough to honor Love and Truth and the principle of the thing, particularly in abusive situations.
I encourage you to be truthful with yourself and others! To be brave and to stand up for Love and God’s/universal Truth!
* When children are heavily spirit influenced, mediumistic, overcloaked, they can become a channel for spirits to ask questions. I mention this as there was a time when our kids were very out of body and often spirits would ask questions through the kids – (this attraction was due to Pete and my fears about spirits and our unhealed emotions which left the kids unprotected and totally open to spirit influence). This feels different to most of the questions they ask now, which I feel reflect their desires more rather than spirits who were/are with them.