What I Wish I’d Known about Sex years ago…

God’s Truth about sex and sexuality* and that it was taught at school and at home

God made everyone a perfect mate, the other half of you (For more specific info check out Divinetruth.com go to the youtube channel and search Soulmates) This means there is only one person in the world for you, one partner, one mate, one person to have sex with.


God made everyone with an inbuilt pleasure system so He must have intented us to use it and enjoy ourselves


Love is an essential part of sex. 

I suspect sex without love was not intended.


The more you become and express your real self as God made you, the more your soulmate is attracted to you.

Loving someone is all about opening your heart. I haven’t experienced sex with an open heart yet but I hear its amazing.

Sexuality is a gift.

Sexuality and sexual expression are part of us and we need to explore, discover and become educated about it.

I have a choice to give the gift of my sexuality. If others demand, expect, or take it against my will it is wrong. If they make me ‘bad’ or shame me for not doing what they demand they are even more wrong on so many levels (yes, i have some personal hurt to feel about this one).

Sex is emotional. 

Sex and love go together. seperating love from sex causes heartache. Sex without love is unfulfilling and creates emotional pain.

Sex is an expression of Love. If you don’t love the person you are going to have sex with(or are having sex with), or they dont love you don’t have sex. 

Work out issues of love emotionally before having sex.

Love, including being truthful, transparent, open and honest brings people closer emotionally.

Masturbation also known as self sex is fun and enjoyable for boys and girls. Try it in a safe private space and find out for yourself. Explore your own body discover how it works, how it feels, what part is what. Experiment with what you personally enjoy so when you meet your soulmate you can share and show and then experiment together.

Sex can be fun and at times funny

Scientifically investigate. know your own atonomy how it works and functions.

I recently discovered that my vagina has many parts I didn’t know the names of.

Men and women orgasm. It is very enjoyable to do so.

Men and women can ejaculate. It’s a really enjoyable sensation. You can learn how through self sex.

It would have been benefital to know and understand how to orgasm, how to ejuclate and that it was normal, possible and existed.

That talking about sex helps to learn about it. 

Speaking plainly about sex and calling sexual organs by their scientific names is essential to avoid confusion.

People had spoken plainly, openly and clearly about sex.  

If someone is only interested in you for sex this is not love and they don’t really like you.

That I had been shown factual, truthful, love based informatiom about sex from positive credible sources. And been given information on how to find this for myself, if I so desired.

Sex is not like in the movies. Real sex is not like porn sex. And sexual violence is not okay.

Things like farting, fanny farting ( when air comes out of your vagina) happen during sex. Sometimes sex is awkward. And thats okay.

That feelings, emotions had been encouraged and emotional sex had been discussed.

More may be added in future…

Note:

I understand many of us have a heap of emotions around sexuality, sex and sexual expression to work through and release for us to be truly open hearted.

I have found positive, open conversations about sex to be enjoyable and educational. 

I would have loved to have open, honest, emotionally expressive conversations about sex with people who were curious like me when I was discovering my sexuality, where feelings were encouraged, truth was spoken and explored and shame was felt rather than projected.

So this post is beginning a positive conversation in that direction.

All the best in explorng sexuality!

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* Ask God and God can let you know through feelings.

For more information on How to Connect to God, how to receive God’s Love and Truth and information on Truth about soulmates and sexuality visit the Divinetruth.com YouTube channel and search for soulmates, sexuality, partner relationships, Recievibg God’s Love, God’s truth or any other subject you are interested in.

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Books i found educational reading about orgasm (I do not agree or endorse  everything in them),

**I Love Female Ogasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, by Dorian Solot & Marshall Miller

** Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl

Are Vaginas Rude?

The Harpy and the vagina. This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it. (still more to go emotionally on this issue).

The Harpy and the vagina. This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it. (still more to go emotionally on this issue).

My little sister called her vagina her ‘rude part’ yesterday. I wanted to immediately ‘correct’ her and say ‘your vagina is not a rude part’.

And then I thought about it:

How do I feel about my vagina truthfully?

How do I view genitalia & body parts made for pleasure (penis’, balls/scrotum, vaginas, clitorous, bum holes, breasts etc)?

How do I feel about orgasim & ejaculation?

What are my real feelings towards sex, sexuality, my vagina, my body and the gifts God has given me?

These are questions I need to explore and find out for real.

Internal messages and memories of various happenings as a kid crossed my mind and words and feelings from people about my vagina and vagina’s in general flashed up like neon billboards.

Vagina - who wants it?

Vagina – who wants it?

I said to Iz, ‘How come you feel your vagina is a ‘rude part’?’

She said that’s what a friend of her’s called it.

I asked her if she really felt her vagina or vaginas in general were rude?

We then had a small discussion on how often people referred to parts of the body as ‘rude’ when actually they are not rude at all and that God made them as pleasure centres  – in regards to vagina’s and penis’, but even other parts of the body can bring great pleasure and it is something we can explore for ourselves to find out about.

I owned that much of what I was saying was intellectual for me, as I didn’t personally feel this way about my vagina all the time, because of various false beliefs and things that had happened to me when I was a child. We  still discussed what we thought or had heard God might think about our bodies as She was the one who made them, and what Love would do. This led onto a discussion about ‘marriage, sex and soul mates’ to which the kids had some fabulous ideas and concepts and have also picked up our errors about too. Both were great to hear.

The conversation ended but my thoughts kept going…

Vagina’s and penis,’ are such  interesting places to explore – emotionally, physically, scientifically. I know that my husband has told me they are amazing and from a purely scientific point of view it is amazing what they can do. And what they feel.

I have been reluctant to explore my vagina because of the feelings that are exposed that I have so wanted to avoid to do with being sexually abused as a child (another post to come on this subject).

Vaginas.This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it.

Vaginas.This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it.

I have recently had some interesting law of attraction events to do with sex, sexuality and vagina’s* if you are interested in exploring there are some resources  below:

 

Divine Truth – Teachings of Jesus and Mary on God’s Truth:

The Divine Truth seminars, FAQ’s and teachings of Jesus and Mary I cannot recommend highly enough! If you truly want a relationship with God and/or to heal issues in your life on all manner of subjects in a real and lasting way these are for you. The teachings are life changing, logical, simple and work when you truly engage the principles presented!

Sex and Sexuality YouTube video information – I highly recommend these videos! They present material that I have found helpful, illuminating and life changing!

FAQ’s on Partner Relationships – YouTube FAQ’s answered on Partner relationships! I found these excellent in understanding a lot of things about myself.

Divine Truth Website Audio, written, video material on God’s Truth & the teachings of Jesus and Mary on various subjects including sex and sexuality

Mary’s Blog – Post on where Mary mentions ‘God and my Vagina in the same sentence!’

 

Other Resources on Vaginas, Sex, & Sexual Abuse

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma. By Staci Haines – excellent for practical and real ways to heal sexual trauma

The Emotional Incest Syndrom: What to do when a parent’s Love Rules Your Life’. By Dr Patricia Love – this book put into words and gave a name to feelings I have had that I have been told didn’t exist

Sex and Punishment, Four Thousand Years of Judging Desire, by Eric Berkowitz – history of sexual violence and acceptable and unacceptable sexual practices. In reading it I can see where sexual shame has come from.

 

* My focus is on vaginas over penis’ as I have one and I am exploring the issues I have with mine.