Tuesday, 19th May 2015
“…But the biggest thing that I discovered was that parenting is easy when we love. It is a simple, joyful, fun and effortless adventure. I imagine that I have felt a tiny glimpse of the joy that God must have being our parent. I realised that I don’t need to train them [the children], manage them, or turn them into anything, or force them to be a certain way.
I just need to love them.
Working through my own emotional blockages to love has been the greatest single thing I have done with regards to improving my relationship with my kids.
God has already created their souls, and all I need to do is to create an environment where Gods creation can be expressed. If I think that I can create a better child than God, then I am going to eventually realise that I am very wrong.
One of the greatest joys in this process is watching the difference in the boys when I have a feeling of love instead of anger, annoyance, frustration, fear, shame or any other non-loving emotion. I have seen them change in an instant when I come from a space of love, rather than a non-loving space.
It is a bit hard for me to describe but children bloom when love is present, and shrivel when it is absent. In my opinion, learning about true love, and being a loving parent from Gods perspective, is the greatest gift a parent can give to a child, and I would encourage all parents and carers (and everyone for that matter) to consider learning more about love.
Your children will thank you for it!!