This is a back dated post and follows on from the ‘Discovery Learning’ Post (Feb 19th, 2014).
March 12, 2014
I have been pondering and reflecting on our discovery Learning mornings lately. My efforts in a ‘teaching/learning sit down’ environment have not been working.
This is what it looks like:
I get excited. I really want to share with the kids all these cool concepts I am discovering or hearing about God, the Universe, God’s Laws and heaps more. I also want them to get it to want to grow towards God (I am disregarding their free will often). I have been creating a sit down exercise I would like. I try & get them to do it. The boys run off after a few minutes to play outside. Iz will sit with me longer but wants to just have time with me and do what she wants with me. They don’t want to do anything I ask them to do. It sometimes feels rebellious, it sometimes feels like they are disinterested, it sometimes feels like they are influenced by others (spirits) in various ways, it sometimes feels like I am forcing them rather than feeling them.
When this happens our morning end up as ‘nothings’ and I feel despondent & disappointed in myself.
So this week I reflected about these things, how I feel about them when they happen, the addictions that get exposed and how I feel frustrated they don’t want to do what do what I want them too (an addiction).
I decided that I would try something completely different.
Instead of doing what I intellectually ‘think’ & have been taught is the right way to ‘teach’, I decided to experiment with how I notice God guiding & teaching me, which is, in the moment, through personal experience, by giving me instant, personal, perfect, feedback of my loving and unloving actions, through God’s Laws and the beautiful universe He has created for us to become self aware and discover ourselves, others and God.
We went ‘bush’ (out into nature).
It was awesome.
The kids explored (they are genuinely wonderful explorers), found creatures, were engaged, excited for the entire time we were ‘in the field’. They didn’t want to go to school and they wanted to stay at Yabby Creek all day ‘forever’ as Archie stated.
There were a number of things that happened between the kids while we were on our adventure. Izabella took Charlie’s rock and threw it in the river without consideration that he actually wanted to keep it and she had promised him she would get it out again if she threw it in. She didn’t which is a theme at the moment – she is lacking ethics and has some morality issues also of doing things that she knows to be unloving but choosing to do them anyway, for example stealing or taking things even when someone has asked her not too.**
Charlie was really upset as he is when Iz does what she has said she wont – it is a reoccurring issue. This time Charlie cried and I waited.
Iz began justifying her actions and I spoke to her about this and pointed out in the moment exactly what had happened and what she was doing and how it was out of harmony with Love specifically.
When Charlie finished crying he spoke about how horrible it felt when Iz did that to him.
We packed up and drove to school.
On the way we had a in depth discussion about ethics (treating others as you would like to be treated) and basic morals from God’s perspective (doing things you know to be unloving but making the choice to do them anyway). I am not particularly savvy on morals yet myself so I only spoke about what I knew. We began with the rock incident but quickly moved onto issues in both Izabella’s and Charlie’s lives where these things were happening. They guided the discussion and I listened rather than imposed, gave them the Truths I understand, or have experienced personally and asked them questions about their feelings and actions.
What was highlighted to me was that I hadn’t had to ‘teach’ anything. I hadn’t needed to ‘set’ anything up. I had just needed to be present, have a genuine desire to guide the kids in the direction of Love. I was willing to talk to them and engage a discussion about why they had wanted to make the choices they had, how those choices had played out, how that related to God’s version of Love and the Laws that were in play and how they had been affected by these as far as I understood it at this time.
I realised that by just being and wanting to engage, Love, feel and be present with the kids. Being willing to give them time, it made our day so much more fun, the things I had wanted to ‘teach’ them the week before had just happened through the Law of Attraction perfectly so they had an in the moment personal experience example that I could use to illustrate what I had desired for them to know at least conceptually. It was fun, authentic, real and not fabricated and more perfect than I could have anticipated for each of us!
It was interesting to reflect upon how often I am wanting to do rather than just be & feel. But that is another post for another time, smile. Check out ‘Feeling vs Doing’ reflections post if you want to.
** The ethical issues and lack of morals in Izabella are reflecting of Pete and My lack of ethics and morality in various areas from God’s perspective. If Pete and I didn’t have these injuries they would probably not show up in the kids or if they did we would recognise them and be much more firm for love and truth than we have been in the past. We are starting to recognise the unloving behaviours in ourselves more which allows us to recognise the reflections from the children.
God is truly loving in giving us so many opportunities to learn about love with the gift of children!