Written in March 2020

There is a common belief and saying that ‘Truth hurts’ and ‘love hurts’. The insinuation is that these two qualities cause pain.

A friend of mine commented that they were ‘going to be honest even if it hurt’.

I had a really strong response to this comment, I felt: ‘this is a lie! Truth doesn’t ever hurt’ I realised that I do not believe the saying at all.

The truth does not hurt. Truth (with love) brings relief, freedom, understanding, infinite discovery, it is the antidote to fear.

Truth is good.

Often truth and love are associated as being the hurtful part, this is not true. We prefer to think truth hurts rather than see it is the error, what is out of harmony with love in our soul, that the truth exposes that is painful, not the truth or love itself. The error and pain was already in us before the truth exposed it.

I feel most of us have been or are in denial about the pain in our lives and when Truth, and Love, exposes this we blame Truth rather than being humble to our pain.

I have experienced the feeling of love and it exposed and contrasted with feeling unloved. The feeling of love created an opportunity (had the power) to heal. It helped me to connect to the pain of not feeling loved.

The hurt that people associate with truth and love is actually historical or current pain being exposed, false beliefs revealed, unloving exceptions highlighted, things we don’t like about ourselves are put under the spotlight, revealed to our self and/or to others.

When we associate Truth and Love with pain rather than seeing it is our error: our sin (our unlovingness, our desire for addictions to be met) that is the cause of our pain, we distort the facts and reject the very things: love and truth, that will bring joy, happiness and freedom to our lives.

I observe how often humans want to blame someone or something in a futile attempt to deny or avoid feeling pain. I notice the relationship many people have towards Truth is a desire to not know the facts. I feel the opposite.

Truth highlights what is happening in life, it creates a contrasts between what is real from God’s Perspective, true and loving and the lack of love, truth and reality from God’s Perspective.

I would prefer the truth exposing historical pain than keeping up the lies to prevent it.

Changing your relationship with truth helps to see the world in a completely different way.

Truth creates connection, closeness and trust. Truth is essential if want to grow and change. Truth is the way to find out about God, others and ourselves, to learn new things, to have more love, happiness and joy in life.

Truth makes life simple, with less pain and less effort. Truth has been the catalyst that changed my life in a positive direction. Truth with love is precious, beautiful, a thing to develop, hold dear and honour.

In my experience Truth and Love have never hurt, but the pain that these qualities exposed did.

Truth is loving, a quality to value.