This is a quality worth developing.
I have led a life of inconsistency. Of being swayed every which way and all over the place.
My ‘no’s’ have not meant ‘no’ my ‘yes’ has not meant ‘yes’.
I have not wanted to be consistent with the kids, Pete, myself or in my life in general. I have had to use A LOT of will power to even attempt to be consistent which has taken a lot of effort to maintain for very short periods of time and then I have fallen back into inconsistency again.
Recently I found out some of the reasons why I haven’t wanted to be consistent particularly with Pete and the kids, the main one being if I am consistent with them I have to be consistent with me also otherwise I am being hypocritical.
Truth be told I have WANTED to let them ‘get away’ with stuff and be inconsistent because I have wanted to get away with things myself. I have wanted to have an ‘out’ or an excuse to be unethical if I want to be, or if I feel something is ‘too hard’ I have actually wanted the excuse to sin or be unloving.
The problem with this is that it causes A LOT of negative consequences. It creates a lack of safety, security, certainty. It creates sin and pain emotionally which often ends up becoming chronic physical pain due to avoiding the chronic emotional pain. It also honours fear above love and truth which NEVER turns out well.
I have been experimenting with consistency on and off for a while now, but the last months, I have focused on it far more than previously and I found something really awesome.
When I am consistently truthful and do what Love dictates consistently, my life is enjoyable. I feel pretty good inside and I feel genuinely positive. This is new for me. But what I reckon is happening is that when I honour these things as much as I possibly can in every area that I can see, I am working more in harmony with God’s Laws and even though I have not made the full emotional changes it is improving my life.
There are so many positive benefits for living in Truth, aspiring to Love and working with God’s Laws rather than against them. I aspire to do this consistently rather than periodically.
God is a master of consistency, which means that I need to embrace this quality too.
Consistency is a key ingredient to real happiness.